PresseKat - Loony, parasite or psychopath: result of upbringing of most modern parents

Your children are bound to one of three options: loony, a parasite or a psychopath. When you provide your children 100%, you are incapable of doing anything parasites that age turned into slaves or social freaks.

(firmenpresse) - As I disliked that I will write in the next article, but it is realities of the that world in that we live with you. you can resist to the facts, to hide from them, but from it you only itself will drive in a godforsaken place and in addition will collect whole collection of psychiatric diagnoses.

During the preparation for the first season of the new English serial, dedicated to the eternal problem of fathers and children, I have to explore a huge number of real dramatic stories that have occurred in Europe, CIS, Asia and the America. Each situation is parsed individually with a group of psychologists and psychiatrists. The trend, frankly, terrifying. How would, I disliked what I write in next article, but it is - the reality of the world in which we live. You can resist the facts, hide from them, but from it you only itself will drive in a remote corner and in addition gather a collection of psychiatric diagnoses.

Let us consider the story, that our operator Jack Wilshire, who has worked in the BBC for 15 years, sent me. The heroine of the story he knows personally and watched her family tragedy with his own eyes https://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=407730. Unfortunately, he nothing could change in this case.

After college, 23-year-old M. arrived from New York to Italy. She, like many thousands of other girls do not like the rhythm of the "Big Apple" and plastic values of "front-rank society." She chose the Old World and decided to build their lives there. It was her dream. Mother knew about the decision of his daughter. But instead of to support her daughter, she pushed her to a series of charges. She thought of the most various reasons - from loneliness to which his mother was now doomed, to disease 85-year-old grandmother, she contacted her daughter's departure. She called her daughter to 15 times a day and crying on the phone. She tried to cause sense of guilt the perverted methods. The whole horror lasted every day for two years. What has made the mother? The daughter had a miscarriage, she lost a favourite man. As a result, the daughter came home to visit his grandmother, but because of the hysterical mother once she had stayed in New York.

If the whole story compressed into one day and just look at the sequence of actions and events, it turns out that the whole problem lies in the fact that his daughter was unable to stop his mother and allowed her to take decisions for themselves. There is a question of responsibility. Who is responsible for the decision of the mother to return the child back to New York at all costs? Obviously, in this case, daughter liability incurred. "Loving mother" made a decision and be responsible for the decision of his family shattered and broken psyche had daughters. Unfortunately, her life is ruined and will continue to glow is in a state before it will deal with the concept of "responsibility" and learns to stop the other people.

And here it becomes clear that this situation is not unique problem of concrete girl M. of New York. This is a disease of modern society, which in course of time transforms for someone in a diagnosis, and for someone in a verdict.

Look closely at your life. How many times has it happened that the parents have given you advice that came to an end for you to defeat, failure or collapse? But why is this happening? When you turn to your parents, do you think that they are adults and successful people, at least they are trying to convince you of that. They even manage to smile in the morning to have in any case not doubt creeps in that they are the same as you - lost and do not know what direction to continue on life. But they manage to give advice to you and get frustrated when you deviate from their "wise advice" You feel sorry for his part them instead to look at the situation objectively. You masterfully erase eraser with fragments of memory the most unfortunate: you try to forget about how parents swore, scandals, the plant lovers and mistresses. You have all seen it. But when they grow up will still come to them for advice. Why is that? So it is accepted in the society. Whatever the failures and the monsters were not your parents, they need to listen to and try to justify them. What advice can give people, who are with themselves, can not understand? But the main question - who will be responsible for these recommendations? And here is the most interesting!

Who can argue with a simple model in any relationship: "Whoever is responsible for the outcome, and he makes the decisions!". Again, the question of liability. And here is where the problems begin. In modern society, statistically there are two extremes:
- Parents who are responsible imaginary;
- Parents who rid their children of the decision-making by them at 100%.

The imaginary responsible - it is the most common phenomenon today. Parents make the decision, but are responsible for everything - you. Exactly! It is then you weep into my pillow, leave the house and reveals his veins. They sympathize and empathize. But the brunts take you! Why is this happening? It's very simple - your parents just do not have the courage to admit that they practically anything can not. As a result, they are deceiving themselves first, and then cheat you and give advice "cosmic and comic stupidity."

That as a result? Your children are bound to one of three options: loony, a parasite or a psychopath. When you provide your children 100%, you are incapable of doing anything parasites that age turned into slaves or social freaks.

When you are giving advices, which lead children to failure, defeat and psychological trauma, you are doing from their children loonies or psychopaths.

Sooner or later, you yourself begin to realize that their children's coffins. What do you do in such cases? Shift responsibility to society, institutions, universities, and business structure. You say, "It's time to grow up!", While they themselves are hoping that someone will be able to educate your children and will save you from this headache. You are substituting the concept in every possible way, in fact - at the same time raise the white flag and acknowledge the inconsistency as teachers and mentors to their own children. As a result, your children converted to the crazies, parasites and psychopaths strangers and society. But you will, by and large, fits this situation. Why is that? The main thing that you will not blame or finger pointing in your direction. By all means you're trying to be good for their children. But as you can see, it is always preceded by your failure and refusal to raise children properly. You put your children to "choice without a choice." The result is known in advance - a psycho, a parasite or a psychopath. Is there still a way out of this stalemate? There, but for the parents and children it's different.

Dear parents, maybe it's time to stop and stop to mutilate their children? Maybe it's time to admit their inconsistency? Do not you think that is enough already to experiment on their children, turning them into lab rats? Perhaps it is necessary to understand that your main goal in life - to find someone who is able to educate your child and kneeling to beg him to, he corrected what you have done for many years failed experiments?

Dear children, may be time for you to learn how to stop their parents? Otherwise you will have to turn into a radio-controlled creature with an invisible chip in the head. You want a 30, 40 or 50 years in the life of the solution for you taking the parents by pressing buttons on the remote that you are at the time and could not take away from them? All this horror could end up in a few minutes. It's enough to ask parents loved only one question:
"Mom, Dad, you will be liable for 100% of your decision? If it does not work, you are ready to take responsibility? After all, it was your advice! You guarantee that if something goes wrong, you can fix it in a timely manner? It is enough with me to be divided by the unsuccessful experience"!
Remember, there is nothing that stops a person from wrong actions, as the individual responsible for the consequences. Responsibility works better than a handbrake on a car that is moving at a speed of 200 km/h toward the concrete wall. Such talk very quickly lead your parents in mind, and to consider the consequences. If they will ignore such calls, you have to find someone who will agree to educate you and make you a real person. Main question - "As does such man look?». But it is a theme of other article already.

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